Retroactive Jealousy, what if we have different values and beliefs?

In this blog I will address concerns regarding different morals, values, and beliefs when it comes to retroactive jealousy. 

A very common worry is, “I don't know if I'm compatible with my partner, I don't know if I should be with them, I'm doubting the relationship altogether based on their past because I don't like what they did.”

“ I'm afraid that we have different morals, different values, and different beliefs, and we're not compatible”

The most important thing to remember here is that morals, values, beliefs, ideas, what we think is right and wrong, what we think we deserve and what we don't CHANGE.

If you are with someone that has similar goals, beliefs, morals and values with you today, then why does what they used to believe or think in the past matter?

If you feel the same way about each other. You see a future together. You want to evolve and grow together. Then there really is no problem.

For example many people in this world used to believe in Santa once upon a time, but don't anymore. People change and they are allowed to change.

That was a belief that's changed and just like that's changed, so have many other beliefs, thoughts and ideas. 

Do your morals and values match today? If so, then that's great.

That's all you need to look at. 

Furthermore, if you are worried or disgusted by your partner being touched by other people in the past, know that every minute of every day, millions of cells in our body die and new ones are reborn.

So if you look at it that way, physically, your partner is not the same person. 

They don't have the same cells that they used to have on their body back then, and mentally they're different because again, people are allowed to grow, to change, to learn and to shift their ideas/beliefs, as they evolve.

We don't have to stay stuck at who we were a year or two or three ago.. 

I hope this helps! :)