How to tell your partner they have Retroactive Jealousy
Firstly, it is important to know that most Retroactive Jealousy sufferers are relieved when they finally find a name for what they have been going through.
Some may be surprised/shocked and can remain in denial for some time. It’s important to give them space to process this new information.
Secondly, avoid blaming them or trying to force them to see things a certain way. Give them some time and mention that you will support them and will be there for them through the recovery process.
It is okay if you don’t totally understand ‘why’ your partner is feeling this pain, but it is best to acknowledge that they are feeling it. This will help them feel like you are on their side and not against them and will speed up the recovery process.
Thirdly, remind them that this affects you too. Without blaming them, talk about how it has impacted your life.
Here are two videos we would recommend sending to your partner who suffers from Retroactive Jealousy or watching them with them.
What is RJ? (Sufferer AND Partner)
What is RETROACTIVE JEALOUSY? (and what it isn't)
Remember, many couples have been through Retroactive Jealousy and have become stronger and more connected because they put in the work. You are not alone and there absolutely is a way out of this!
