The top 2 signs that you are struggling from retroactive jealousy!

I myself used to struggle from Retroactive Jealousy for about 7 years and I now help people overcome it. It's been about 4 years of helping people through this and I really love what I do.

So how to know if you have retroactive jealousy? 

The biggest difference between someone that has retroactive jealousy and someone that doesn't is that the person that does not have retroactive jealousy can think about their partner's past, recognize that it's an unpleasant thought, and move on.

No one likes to think about their partner with somebody else. But the person who struggles from Retroactive jealousy will find it difficult to let it go. 

So the first sign that you're experiencing retroactive jealousy is that you get intrusive thoughts and mental movies regarding your partner's past. 

Often, if not always, these thoughts are accompanied by feelings of either anxiety, sadness, anger, disgust, judgement or all of the above.  

Some people get very angry, they feel judgmental and they feel disgusted. Other people get really sad, they feel jealous, they feel anxious. Or maybe you feel everything at different times. But essentially, the first sign that you struggle from retroactive jealousy is that you get intrusive thoughts and mental movies about your partner's past.

Maybe they bother you on a daily basis, you feel like you can't concentrate on anything else, you feel it's affecting your health, your relationship, your well being. Maybe you get them a few times a week, maybe it's once a month. 

The severity can vary depending on how bad you struggle, but essentially, if you're getting thoughts about your partner's past, then it bothers you to the point where you can't move past it, or you're struggling to, then it's likely you're struggling from retroactive jealousy.

The second biggest sign that you are experiencing retroactive jealousy is wanting to find out more about the past by asking your partner questions, stalking the ex on social media, wanting to know more, wanting to trick them into giving you more information, asking the same questions differently, and  generally believing that if you find out more, then you will be able to let it go.

This is not true, the opposite actually happens. The more you know, the worse it gets. Some people shut down completely. They don't want to talk to anybody about it, including their partner. They go quiet, maybe they feel ashamed for feeling and thinking this way, for not being able to let it go. Some feel embarrassed and  judge themselves.

Not everyone acts out the compulsions, not everyone wants to ask questions, some people don't want to know. They just shut down completely. 

Then there's a third category of people that get really angry. They lash out, they start arguments, they shame and blame their partner.

They obviously regret it afterwards, but in the moment when they're feeling really emotional, this can happen. 

If you are struggling from retroactive jealousy and this resonates with you, the first thing I want you to know is that you're not alone, there is hope and you are very much able to overcome it.

Watch the video above for more details :)