3 Main Reasons Why a relationship fails.
‘Why does a relationship fail?’
There are three main reasons that keep coming up and I will be giving you tips on how to overcome these issues so please read until the end.
Intimate relationships can face many varying issues and challenges, but some keep recurring. The three main issues I am going to talk about are Conflict and Resolution, Communication Problems and Trust Issues.
Communication Problems: these occur when couples find difficulty in expressing thoughts, feelings, needs, wants and concerns effectively.
This can lead to disagreements and misunderstandings where you feel that the your partner doesn’t “get you” or you feel like they aren’t even trying.
This is where resentment can set in because you do not feel heard and understood and this can create distance in the relatioship.
The key to overcoming this is checking-in with yourself often. Analysing your thoughts and feelings with intention daily and giving yourself the time to re-align especially before you raise an issue with your significant other.
2. Trust Issues: this is one of the most important things to maintain a healthy relationship. When trust is compromised due to secrecy, breaches of confidence or infidelity it can really strain the connection between two people.
If you plan on staying together for a long time, your trust will be challenged from time to time. It is a good idea to be proactive in trying to understand each other’s negative actions should issues arise.
Be focused on undestanding why your partner acted badly, what was their intention? We all make mistakes and underneath negative behaviour is a person suffering that had no intention of hurting you.
The goal is for the individual that broke the trust to come clean, really understand why they did it and communicate that.
It is important that they show remorse and that you are also allowed to voice your concerns as well as discuss how you both can move on from it.
3. Conflict and Resolution: disagreements and arguments can happen frequently and this is normal in a relationship.. The real issue is when you handle them poorly.
If you find yourself not compromising with each other you may experience defensiveness, deflection, attacking or even shutting down (going quiet for days).
Feelings of helplessness and hopelessness can set in and the belief that every situation no matter how trivial seems ‘impossible to resolve'.’
This will create the fear that one of you may leave the relationship and can cause acute relationship anxiety.
To overcome this avoid making assumptions, judgements, shaming, blaming and deflection as these are poison to a relationships success.
It is best to instead focus on advocating for each other even when things get difficult.
Manage each others anticipation, take time to let things '“cool off” and set a time to come back and rehash the issue with the main aim to allow each other to be heard and understood as this will re-build trust.
You cannot and will not agree on everything because you both think independently (even in a relationship).
Being compatible with someone doesn’t just happen it takes continuous effort, communication and the commitment to resolve.
Watch the video (linked above for more details).
I hope this help you! :)
